Friday, October 30, 2015

Hiking, Biking and Picking

About a year ago, some good friends got married in Kent, CT-- a beautiful place-- but I was feeling so sick still that we were unable to attend.  Making good on a promise to take me back to Kent, we seized a free Friday afternoon last week and had a little day trip.


The best part about Kent (for me) is that it is where the Appalachian Trail cuts into Connecticut for a small stretch.  So I got to get my Appalachian on (always grand!) and I got one state closer to my goal of hiking at least a portion of the AT in every state it touches.


The leaves certainly enhanced the experience!




After our short stint on the AT, we stopped into town for soup, herbal tea, and chocolate (lunch of legit chilly weather hikers, of course) and we continued our trekking at Kent Falls State Park.  We will definitely come here again!






Last week we also went to our hot spot, Lyman Orchards, and picked apples and pears.  The pears were extra fun because only the tippy-top ones were left, which meant a little tree climbing!



And we also won't forget this fun event we attended on the new section of the Q Bridge in New Haven about a month ago.  The city had a party on the bridge as a celebration before it opened to traffic.  We had a great morning, taking our bikes onto the train with us to New Haven and then biking to the bridge and to the New Haven farmer's market for lunch.  Unique day!  We drove over this section of the bridge in our car just the other day and I had to give a little cheer and a boast that I had biked there :)



P.S.

We had a great afternoon with the YSA Branchies this weekend at the corn maze and picking some more apples!








Photos by our very own Matthew Marshall.

Utah Trip

We flew out to Utah for a few days in October to see General Conference, to see some of the family, to see close family-friends, and to see UConn football play their furthest away game ever at BYU.  The stars seem to be aligning, inviting us to make the trip, so we decided to say yes!

At one session of conference, we sat with the younger kids of our great friends the Durrants.  This is a blackmail photo to show their parents how diligent Lil' Gracie was at staying awake, while the boys, well... see for yourself... :) hehe







Never one to pass up a museum-like opportunity, I got a nice chance to look at the many works of art on display in the Conference Center.  One that really caught my eye was the one below called She Shall Find What Is Lost, by Brian Kershisnik.  It was particularly poignant to view this and think about some recent events in my family, xoxo:


Also, I immediately recognized the painting as being by the same person who painted this unique Nativity, one of my favorites:

Both of these are GIANT paintings.  Nativity was on display in the BYU Museum of Art while I attended, and I loved going to look at it in person.


At some point on our trip, I contracted what we can only describe as food poisoning, so I spent much of the second half of our stay in bed.  If you hear your friends at church complaining about some gross lady barfing her guts out in the garbage can right in front of the Conference Center (that would be me...) tell them to be nice and that at least it was IN the garbage can!  That was definitely the low point for me.


The highlight, on the other hand, came right at the beginning of our stay when I convinced Jack to hike to the Timpanogos Caves with me!  It was an astoundingly beautiful day and the caves were so cool inside.

Jack wasn't too sure about the hiking part (to be fair, it is very steep, with the trail often next to sheer cliff walls-- rather a scary sight at some spots).  But he did admit, once we got to the bottom again, that he "might do that again" in several years.  I'll take it!


Friday, October 9, 2015

Martha's Vineyard, Re-do

Our first time to Martha's Vineyard was exactly a year before our second time, because both were in celebration of our marriage-- first our honeymoon, and now our very first anniversary trip!  We had a great time and the weather was gorgeous.  We could not have asked for a better week to enjoy the island.

We spent the first day or so in Cape Cod and took a bike ride around Hyannis to see where all those Kennedys live and ended up crashing a beach wedding (Note to future brides: wind problems, shoe problems, sand problems-- having seen a few beach weddings, I do not recommend them).  We sat around like creepers and watched the entire thing.  Their preacher really earned his dollars- he was into it!


  


This time we brought our own bikes along so we enjoyed a lot of cycling around the island and some other fun activities like a joint paddleboard/kayak trip, a beach bonfire with our cool MV crew, and a sunset cruise on an old sailing ship. 

Best of all was the fact that when we went home, we got to go to the same home, in the same state (!) -- unlike last year when I had to return to Philly after our honeymoon for 2 months of daily radiation.  We are so grateful for the progress we both have made in our lives over the past year-- health, professional, living situation, and otherwise.  It has been a big year of recovery, change, and growth for us and we are so happy to be just where we are right now.  Thanks for ALL of the tremendous love and support along the way!









Saturday, September 5, 2015

Flo-Rida

(This post has nothing to do with the rapper^)


PICTURE THIS:

Jack and Linds cruising around Tampa in a convertible Camaro with the top down on a beautiful day, jamming to Dre's new album, and them swimming at Clearwater Beach with its pristine, soft white sand, known as one of America's best beaches.  And its all pretty much for free.


Dreamy, right?


Somewhat at the last minute, we took a trip to Tampa, Florida in early August.  Jack was invited there by his job for a conference and they generously paid for everything for the two of us to go to the conference, except for my airfare.  So we could not say no to a virtually free summer vacation!

True, it was more of a vacation for me than for him, since he was mostly in conference meetings and panel discussions while I was by the pool...but still.

So he was invited to attend CAAFP -- Conference of African American Financial Professionals.  And let me tell you, it is reported to me regularly that my mother-in-law of blessed memory used to like to say, "You just can't beat a black man in a suit," and after hanging around this conference, I'm inclined to agree!  What a great-looking bunch!  The only problem with that was that my complexion and beach attire in comparison to all those handsome gents made it all the more obvious that I was only there for the food...

I imagined people at every conference room breakfast, lunch, or dinner, noticing that suddenly this suspiciously under-dressed white lady who somehow has a name badge shows up, looking sunburned, whenever free meals are served to conference attendees.

Yeah, well, it's true.  No shame here.


Besides that, the only problems with our "vacation" was that (1) Jack was tied up in meetings for far too much of the time, and (2) we took practically NO pictures!


On our first day before the conference began, we had a great beach day and experienced the bizarre Florida insta-storm weather.  And we splurged on some excellent coconut shrimp, thresher shark skewers, and gator bites.  I'm fairly confident that alligator falls within our Pescatarian diet, since they are water lizards...yeah, let's go with that.

On our last day we went to the Florida Aquarium-- that place was fun!  A big outdoor-feeling section in a large glass dome was my favorite part, it felt a little like jungle hiking with all the trees and the animals were just right next to you with very low glass separating us, and birds just flying all around.  This section is where we got to pet a baby alligator!

They also have amazing experiences available like going straight from the Aquarium onto a dolphin-finding boat trip, going inside the penguin habitat(!), and swimming in some of the tanks!  If your kid is a future marine biologist, this would be a great place to go on some adventurous encounters.


And they have lemurs.  How many aquariums have lemurs??


At the end of it all, we definitely got some sun, some beach time, some pool time, and some relaxation.  Plus Jack got to "network" ie strike up never-ending conversations with complete strangers, which is pretty much his most favorite thing to do :)  So I'd call that a win!

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

The Jackson Diet


We’re not picky eaters, we’re just particular eaters!


I have been trying to encapsulate my answer to people’s incessant question, “How did you do it?!” when they find out that, since we’ve been married, Jack has lost over 50 pounds(!!).  Everyone assumes that I keep him on a strict diet at home, and they want to know the secret ingredients.  The truth is, it stems from many things. 

 



First, we exercise together regularly.  We jog a 5K outside by the beach most days a week.  We also enjoy going on long bike rides together, hiking local trails on weekends, and occasionally playing tennis on the courts right down the street from our home.  Nothing too crazy or vigorous; just consistent, moderate outdoor workouts.


Second, he was sent to the E.R. for diabetes earlier this year and after a scare like that, he has really reformed his outlook on food.  He is very disciplined at avoiding sweets, starches, and carbs.  People think that I am depriving him, but I will offer him a bite of my treat and he always refuses!  Its all him!  I’m so proud!

But perhaps most important is the way we regularly eat.  You can be on the treadmill for hours and it won’t make up for a giant milkshake, double meat/double cheese burger, and extra large chili cheese fries.  We rarely eat out, and that alone saves him countless calories (and dollars).   Mindfully preparing our own food means that he gets a lot more produce and nutrient dense “slow food” rather than gross, high carb, hidden sugar, GMO, pesticide-laden fast food. 


The particular way that we have been eating for nearly the past year is full of purpose.  Each area of focus has a medical or nutritional reason.  We joke that we have the medical records of an 80-year old couple, even though we are newlyweds with an averaged age of 35.  Here is how our health profiles influence what we consume:

Diabetes                 ---no sugar added, low glycemic, low carb

Hypertension             ---low sodium, no processed foods

Cancer                   ---all natural, no canned food, high in
                            antioxidants, avoid soy and sugar

Brain Trauma             ---fatty fish, natural fats, DHA and Omegas

Wheat sensitivity        ---gluten free

           
Here are some of our RULES for the market:

1) Mostly Pescatarian—wild caught seafood, eggs, and whole fat dairy.  We do have the occasional organic, free-range poultry— usually when its on sale and we are weary of fish for a minute.  We eat all kinds of seafood—lobster, crab, scallops, mussels, clams (most of which we can get fresh and local as New Englanders!  Lots of shellfish comes from our very own city of residence!).  When we eat fish, it is always fatty fish, as in, NO TILAPIA.  Bleh.  (Watch this video and you’ll think its gross, too…)  Hubby is allergic to white fish (cod, trout, tilapia) and so we mostly eat fish like Ahi tuna and salmon—always wild caught in the US or Canada.


2) High Fat, Low Carb
Yep, we eat lots of oil, nuts, seeds, and even butter—ain’t nothin’ wrong with organic, unsalted, cultured butter!  Yes, the newest research has been confirming again and again that fat –even animal-based saturated fat—does not make you fat!*  Look it up if you don’t believe me.
           
Low glycemic index
                        No juice.  No more than 2 servings of fruit daily.
                        Yams > Potatoes
                        Quinoa > Rice
                        Buckwheat > Wheat
            No sugar added
            No artificial sweeteners.  No natural sweeteners, for that matter!

3) Gluten Free.  What few grains we do eat are whole grain and naturally free of gluten.
            Buckwheat groats, quinoa, GF oats. Organic brown rice cakes or crackers

            Most baked goods I make are with almond meal and/or coconut flour, so they’re grain free anyway.  Paleo recipes are okay because they are typically low carb, but they are absolutely stuffed with coconut sugar (still adds sugar, people!!), which I simply omit from the recipe, and maybe add an extra banana, or extra spices for flavor and just let a bread be a bread, not a sweet bread—if you catch my drift.

4) Nothing artificial at all.

5) Organic produce, unless it has a thick peel and is known to be pesticide resistant, like bananas and grapefruit.  Watch out especially for the Dirty Dozen!  This includes organic eggs and dairy.

6) Local whenever possible.  We have enjoyed picking our own fruit at local farms this summer.



7) Seasonal, except select super-produce that we can’t go without (berries, avocado, banana)



Some other food rules we follow include:

1) Store in glass containers, even glass water bottles.

2) Nothing from cans.  All beans and legumes are rehydrated on the stove.  All tomato sauce is homemade from fresh tomatoes, fresh garlic, and oil; or from organic sauce sold in glass jars.



So what do we eat when we’re hungry?

Jack recognized early on that what he thought was hunger, was actually thirst.  As such, we drink lots and lots of filtered water.  I also like to keep homemade iced herbal teas in the fridge at all times.

(Iced mint and lemongrass tea, chopped mint leaves, the zest and juice of 2 limes.  Mojito tea!)

(Iced Mango-Hibiscus tea with chopped peaches we picked)

Snacks:
            ¼ c of raw, unsalted mixed nuts
            slice of organic extra sharp cheddar
            hard boiled egg (free range, with Omegas)
            Up to 1 cup of fresh berries
            Homemade hummus with carrots and cucumber slices
            Guacamole with broccoli florets or bell peppers
            Garlic-stuffed green olives
            Wild caught sardines on an organic brown rice cake (Jack loves sardines—a man after Grandma’s heart!)


Breakfast:
            Usually eggs with extra egg whites made in a scramble, omelette, or frittata with garlic, veggies, cheese, and organic salsa.

            But if that carb-craving mood comes at breakfast, I have made waffles out of almond meal, spices, eggs, and coconut oil before, or made the following--
           
        A) Creamy buckwheat hot cereal with cocoa powder, walnuts, and chia seeds.

B) Organic Berries; topped with a mix of GF oats, almond meal, ground flaxseed and hemp seed, spices, and coconut oil. Baked.

                        Both generously topped with plain whole milk organic yogurt. (Trader Joe’s European style is my go-to.  Jack prefers So Delicious Unsweetened Vanilla Coconut Milk yogurt because it contains no grams of sugar from lactose.)  This second recipe is a great examples of how we simply omit the sugar or even honey called for in regular or “Paleo” recipes.  If a recipe has a bunch of fruit in it, then why are you adding a bunch of sugar, too?   

We like to make an almond meal/buckwheat flour banana nut bread, sweetened only with mashed bananas.  It is excellent!  Doing it this way boasts the food’s natural flavor and eliminates unnecessary sweeteners of all kinds, even so-called “natural” sweeteners.

Here's an unsweetened spiced quick bread recipe of my own making-- a blend of carrot cake and paleo banana bread, without added sugars.  The carrots were from our farm share.  I believe I used a blend of Almond Meal and some other gluten free whole grain.  Topped with Neufchatel cheese.  We finished the whole loaf within 3 days!



Our Weekly Essentials Grocery List: 
(I re-stock these weekly!)
            Unsalted Nuts
            Avocado or guacamole
            Cheeses
            Tons of vegetables (almost exclusively from our CSA)
            Eggs (organic, free-range, omega rich diet)
            Plain yogurt




This summer we have a CSA (community supported agriculture) farm share from our nearest farm.  Just as an example, we carried out the following from this local farm just in the past two weeks:


Peaches
Blueberries
Arugula
Bok Choy
Onions
Corn on the Cob
Purple Beets
Scallions
Yukon Gold Potatoes
Garlic
Collard Greens
Boston lettuce
Broccoli
Eggplant
Peppers
Cucumbers
Roma Beans
Tatsoi


This obviously really helps us to up our veggie consumption, and helps us try some different things.



Some farm share experimental recipes:



(Cheesy Kohlrabi Latkes)

 ("Mac and Greens" Yam noodles with collard greens baked in homemade cheddar sauce)

 (Succotash salad with corn, black beans, cucumbers, a spoon of salsa, oil, vinegar, spices)

(Blanched zucchini noodles and garlic scrapes in homemade tomato sauce with fresh basil and parmesan)




Some of Jack’s favorite dinners recently have been things like this:



Local soft-shell crab soaked in homemade buttermilk, dredged in almond meal or coconut flour + cayenne, and pan fried in avocado oil.  We serve this with something like a cole slaw made with chopped napa cabbage, shredded carrots, shaved radishes, toasted sesame seeds, feta cheese, and vinaigrette.



Sauteed shrimp and garlic (and whatever leftover veggies we have, like bell pepper strips) with blanched zucchini noodles, in a light sauce of tahini, olive oil, salt + pepper + cumin, and lemon juice.



Boiled lobster tails (Costco road show!) with melted butter, wrapped in Boston lettuce leaves with avocado slices and red cabbage strips.  Very summery served with a little salad of watermelon, mint, and feta.



Farm share eggplant, sliced and dunked in avocado oil + egg white, dredged in almond meal and spices, cooked in air fryer until browned.  Served over a bowl of homemade tomato sauce, topped with Asiago and Parmesan cheeses.  (I don’t like eggplant, but this was delicious!)







Now, I do eat a little bit of high quality dark chocolate on most days, because it is possible I could lose my mind without it ;)  Occasionally I get a hankering for a (small) drizzle of local honey, which is okay.  And of course, we cheat now and again—he will have a nice bison burger served over greens maybe with a small serving of sweet potato fries, I have an ice cream cone from our neighborhood shop—but we have been enjoying the way we are eating so much, and we have seen such positive results, that it is not very difficult to say no to “regular” foods.  We earnestly stick to our plan at least 90% of the time, and don't get too upset about when we struggle.



And that, my friends, is how you lose over 50 pounds in less than a year without going to a gym, without purchasing a meal plan, without counting calories, and without going on The Biggest Loser.  Good luck!





ADDITIONAL REQUIRED READING:



*Grain Brain, David Perlmutter

            -A high fat and even high cholesterol diet does not hurt your heart, rather, it helps your brain!!



In Defense of Food, Michael Pollan

            -Eat food, not food-like products

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Tiny Veins, Healing Brains

(Sorry for the repeat, this is also on Linds' blog)


BIG follow-up appointments this month.  I spent hours and hours and hours at Yale in the middle of July.  Honestly, most of those hours were spent letting people try to find my veins with needles.  WORST THING EVER.

When I went for my MRI, I had an order in for bloodwork, so they decided to take the blood while they were finding a vein to prepare for when they needed to inject contrast (dye) to make things show up on the MRI better. 

So there I sit in the waiting room wearing, I kid you not, paper pants.  Imagine paper towels…in the shape of pants.  I’m not sure what Yale has against hospital gowns, but paper pants are ridiculous, not to mention freezing cold, especially with how hospitals love to blast the A/C.

So I’m shivering in my new paper towel outfit when I tell the nurse, “Look, I have small veins, so you might as well save us both some time and call your supervisor over to stick me.”  She ignores me.  I know she can’t handle these veins, but she is confident.

Three needle sticks later, she decides to call her supervisor.

And those had not just been polite little needle sticks, but each was a slow stick followed by pulling the needle in and out, and rooting all around under my skin.  Ouch.

The supervisor tries twice more and, rather than admit defeat, she declares me too cold and relegates me to a wheelchair in the corner where she covers me with wet, warm towels.  I was like a big white snow man, with melting paper pants.  Then they forget about me.

Meanwhile, some dude is having a panic attack in the next cubicle, cussing out the nurses, and faking chest pain to get out of his MRI.

Oy.

They remember me again.  This time the floor supervisor tries, declaring, “I prefer to use the bigger needles.”

Why, Zeus, why?

She even uses the ultrasound vein finder machine, but no.  After rooting around and making me bleed everywhere, I have nothing to show but a lap full of bloody gauze and alcohol pad wrappers…and three more bruises in my hands and wrists coming on.

Believe me when I say that repeatedly hearing the phrase, “Oh, I blew out another vein!” is seriously disturbing. 

Her one accomplishment was drawing some tubes of blood from a vein in my hand.  IN MY HAND.  So much pain...  I just don’t think that is supposed to happen.  My purple and green hands and wrists confirm this belief. 

Then they forget about me again.

And finally, an expert from anesthesiology comes in, and even she needs to try twice.  She implements the slap the patient’s arms silly approach, which is rather painful considering my arms and hands are full of holes at this point.  Then finally, FINALLY I get an IV in for the MRI. 

Meanwhile, I’ve blown hours past my MRI appointment and my oncologist appointment.  It literally took hours to get one, stupid IV in.  At Yale-freaking-hospital.

Fortunately, after having done everything in my power to not cry for the entire morning, things did get better.

After the MRI, I was ushered right in to see my neuro-oncologist (he is awesome)—apparently he sent out search parties to see what the heck was taking them so long to start the MRI (a very good question, dear doctor).  He and his assistant reviewed the images immediately.  Although nobody to-date has been able to give me a definite “cancer-free” assessment because of all of the post-surgical blood muddling up the MRI scans, my doctor was confident that all he could see on my scans this time around is scar tissue, no polyps or unusual things of any kind.

His confidence is so reassuring.  Nicest of all, he gave me some advice—which Jack is very quick to remind me of—he said, you should not be thinking about this every minute of every day, don’t be afraid to live your life.

That was a powerful moment for us.

At Jack’s request, the doctor also gave the green light to go on the kiddie rides at Six Flags, which had someone doing a victory dance… (Hint: not me)


 Boy, do I have a lumpy dome, or what??

And my poor little boneless, metal plate section at the back :-(  Did you know that the metal pinches my muscles back there a bit, so I can’t lay down with the back of my head pressing directly into the pillow?  True story.  I need to have a cheek facing down or else its ouchy…and sometimes I can hear the plates and mesh clicking, which is all kinds of weird. 


I liked this^ because of the pretty colors.  They’ve given me this image in black and white, but this was the first time I’ve seen it in all of its colorful glory, and it is much more fabulous this way.

Monday, May 25, 2015

The Berkshires

Like a rustic, hiker-friendly Hamptons, the Birkshires are a mountain range in north-west Massachusetts where plenty of folk from NYC, Boston, and elsewhere retreat for some peace and quiet, while still having some classy restaurants and an impressive arts scene.

While I was getting ready for work on Friday, Jack was on his laptop and asked what I thought about staying at a BandB this weekend in the Berkshires-- of course I said YES!

So we had a very spur-of-the-moment Memorial Day weekend trip that included amazing food, a Rhubarb Festival (rhubarb-based chili contest!), state park after state park, hiking on the Appalachian Trail, and a lovely Bed and Breakfast. 









We were so impressed that as soon as we started driving away, we began making plans for what weekend we can return!